How many times have you heard recently of friendships, marriages, and families falling apart because of political disagreements? It has hit an all-time high with the political division in this country. What is this type of behavior teaching our children?
Why are people so entrenched in their political beliefs? According to a research study by the University of South California, this attachment to our personal beliefs is linked to the part of our brain which is responsible for our feelings of security. To read more about this study, check out this link: http://ow.ly/Agmt309g2ji. People with whom we can discuss business, leisure-time activities, and other topics can feel threatened when discussing politics with someone who holds different points of view.
Do people who post their political points of view on Facebook really think that people who have a different perspective will say to themselves, “What was I thinking? I need to change political views?” Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with people sharing their beliefs through social media, but believing that they will change people’s minds is somewhat unrealistic. Presenting evidence does not seem to change people’s minds in the area of politics.
People in the same family who normally love each other now get into heated discussions and hurl insults at each other. All comments are taken personally when individuals make comments about the intelligence of others who don’t agree with them.
After reading the research on this subject, it is not surprising to understand why people react so violently to these discussions. According to brain imaging, people react this way because their sense of identity and security are being threatened, hence, the intensity of the response. Considering this information, it is understandable why people are reacting, rather than just responding to other people’s comments on politics. People feel like their own identity and their security is under attack during political arguments.
Our children’s eyes and ears are picking up on everything you do and say.
What are you teaching your children about tolerance when you put down people who don’t hold the same political views as you. Are you implying that people who are different than you are bad people? How divisive is this attitude to our society? Learning how to respectfully disagree seems like a lost art, but a very valuable social skill for both one’s personal and professional life.
There is a lot at stake if we don’t learn from one and other as well as respect each other’s point of view. Approach political discussions with an attitude of “What can I learn from this?” rather than I can’t believe this person holds this belief. On the positive side, people are more engaged in politics than in years. However, how do we manage these situations? It will take your best conflict resolution skills to get through these tumultuous years.
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Original content by Kathleen A. Matchunis, Professional Academic and Life Coach, providing customized coaching for teens and parents in person or via Skype. Tel. 954 294 9708. Like us on Facebook: facebook.com/connectinginc. Call for a complimentary consultation!
